Tantra Saves Relationships and Marriages

The east method of lovemaking stops the cooling down and lack of sexual desire that comes in long relationships and marriages.

When the dark cloud of monotony and unhappiness covers your bedroom, you have a number of options: find a lover, seek advice in a magazine, or contact a sex therapist, try feng shui tricks for increasing sexual energy in your home, visit a sex shop and arm yourself with lubricants, latex and handcuffs, or dedicate yourself to the ancient skill of lovemaking – Tantra.

We live in a world in which there are increasingly many divorces, and according to some statistics, in 80 percent of long relationship there is no longer any love between partners. After the initial hot love and bodily and emotional closeness, it seems that amongst couples who have been together for a long time there is a gradual weakening of mutual will and love. We wanted to find out why this is so and how we can deepen and keep the feeling of emotional and bodily connection, so we talked to the therapist and sexologist Davor Stancic, the leader of a Tantra Club.

“The Western way of making love is mostly to blame for couples experiencing a cooling down of relations, less will and the end of love” said Stancic.

Negative hormonal changes

“When we head into intimacy, the levels of hormones responsible for happiness and pleasure rise, which are oxytocin, dopamine and endorphin. After the climax, or achieving a local orgasm, which with men is ejaculation, and with women a clitoral orgasm, their levels suddenly fall. Also, the Western method of making love is such that after an orgasm, with both sexes, the level of the hormone prolaktin rises, which creates a feeling of emptiness, removal and coldness. After sex, it is the high level of prolaktin that causes men to not want to cuddle and talk with their partners, but it is also responsible for post-coital depression and negative emotions with both sexes. The Western way of making love is the main factor that leads to the lack of love, closeness and sexual dissatisfaction with couples that have been together for a long time, says Davor Stancic.

Reach a climax with your whole body

We all want as much love and passion as possible in life. Stancic claims that this can be achieved by a smart approach that deals with the problem with a deeper way that classic advice such as: playing sexual games, putting on costumes and similar.

“Western sexology, according to my opinion, does not realise at all why after a number of years in marriage the love and will disappears” said Stancic, who studied the differences between the Western as so called Eastern methods of making love.

Instead of a local orgasm, Tantra teaches how to achieve an orgasm with the whole body. With this method, after climax the levels of oxytocin, dopamine and endorphin remain the same, whilst the levels of prolaktin remain low. Couples that practice tantric sex achieve greater emotional connectedness and a higher level of sexual pleasure. The reason for this is that whilst practicing the Eastern method of lovemaking, men and women do not lose energy, and it positively influences the whole psycho-physical heath.

Learning does not take long

“Women are made in such a way that they do not need long to learn to experience a total, or full body orgasm. With women it lasts a few weeks. For men it is a little harder, because ejaculation is a reflex action. However, exercising for 10-15 minutes a day, men can feel a difference after a few weeks. After a few months they can experience an orgasm with the whole body, but without ejaculation. Learning to control the ejaculation is similar to the process where small children learn to control urinating. In the east, ejaculation “without intent” is in the least considered to be rude” said Stancic.

We found out from the head of the tantra club that there is a great interest for it when he started to promote it in Croatia in 1994 and 1995, after which the public interest fell.

“Here it is like that, people are more interested in fun that education” said Davor Stancic in the end. He added that everyone who has tried tantric sex is very happy and that they experience greater connectedness and love with their partners, and overall happiness.